Fiend or Friend??

Fiend: A diabolically evil or wicked person... We all know of one or two within our circle of friends.

You see the thing with us girls is that we befriend every second person who is nice to us, and two months down the line they become our new bestfriend. Most of these sudden bff situations don't last long though because we gossip so much. You'd swear it's a curse or some sort of dark cloud over us but sadly in this case, there is no silver lining.

For instance, you introduce your close friend(A) to another friend(B) who happens to live in the same area or go to the same Varsity as your buddy then the next thing they become best buddies. You start feeling left out because everytime you go on facebook or twitter you see pictures of them and status updates about how they're having a great time with so & so wherever WITHOUT you.
Then you tell another friend(C) within the circle about how you feel about this sudden bond and she goes and tells Friend A....BOOM now its a problem. The arguements and backstabbing begins, all of a sudden you're a hater and think you are more relevent than them blah blah blah...

In another scenario, joining a girl clique that has been there for years and suddenly become really close to one of them. You start telling them almost everything good and bad about yourself, this will backfire someday and you'll wish you had kept your mouth shut. You see the thing about "Ride & Die" girlfriends is that they defend each other no matter what the situation. They don't care if their friend is wrong all that they care about is that she says YOU hurt her!!!
Talking to such people is like talking to a drunk person...they have selective hearing, meaning they hear what they want or feel is important to them. Everything else remains a  total blur *shrugs* Then it hits you, maybe I shouldn't have told her, maybe this is Gods way of telling me something, maybe..maybe...I should've, I could've (._.) too late for those now, you're hurt and all alone. Back to square 1, finding new friends

Then there's the ultimate curse/weakness of all times... The Boyfriend, old or new this guy can destroy friendships but sometimes its not his intention.
There's a song by Lana Del Rey-This is what makes us girls, yes I named the blog after it, that i just can't stop listening to. I'll quote some of the things she says in the song:
"This is what makes us girls We all look for heaven and we put our love first Somethin' that we'd die for, it's our curse..."
"This is what makes us girls
We don't stick together 'cause we put our love first
Don't cry about him..."
This is very true, once we fall in-love thats all we care about, even if its for a little while. It hurts the ones around you when suddenly all you care about is your new boyfriend and don't have time for them but in most cases we wont complain, we just sit back and wait for it to fall apart then the gossiping starts.
A true friend warns you when you get yourself into a situation and if you persist we step back and wait... in the end we'll still be here to comfort you and tell you TO YOUR FACE that we told you so.
On the other hand a fiend will keep quiet in the begining, then start sms'n you telling your about your mans where-abouts etc. Once you see him for what he truly is, she'll be on some "yoh mngani uyanya yaz sorry" while behind your back she's saying "mxm who did she think she is?? oho sonke siyaz ukuthi uSiya* unje bekayaphi?? uyislima mina benginyeke shame etc"
Every girl clique has that one fiend who wants to be victim all the time, her bff tolerates her but deep inside she knows the truth. Fiends are bad for ones health but then I'll tell you more about em in the next post.

This is really sad, I mean I have different girl cliques in my life and as I grow older the less friends I have but my Ultimate Ride or Die Chinas still remain. The thing with me is that I can't hold grudges, but once you screw me over I cut you off for good depending on what you did, I'll still greet you and all but I'll also make it very clear where you belong in my life.
I have a hard time trusting people, I was hurt by a fiend in 2011 and I learnt my lesson but thats a different story...Just keep in mind that:
Not everyone who smiles with you is your friend!!!

xoxo B*